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My sister ruined my honeymoon and my husband sided with her

I thought a husband and wife were supposed to be a team. Short marriage. I'll try and keep this as short as possible

While giving the important details. We rented a cabin for our honeymoon to which my sister-in-law and her best friend were already coming along

My husband got the idea to invite my sister and her young son and we paid for them to fly home so they could stay longer after the wedding

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So. It was six days after the wedding. Day five at the cabin when everything went sideways

My sister got sick the day before and we were helping with her son, but still going out and enjoying ourselves as it was our honeymoon

We left her for a few hours at a time and even asked on occasion if she wanted us to take her son, but she never had him ready

It's hard to take a kid still in diapers out without a go bag. It's also not realistic to take a child down to a hot dock without a swimsuit, sunscreen, water, and a hat, etc

We went down to the dock to swim and get some sun. I started getting messages from my sister about her husband

who was at work being mad that their child was locked inside all day. However, anyone who had us on Facebook even commented on the amount he was outside playing with us

as we posted lots of photos with him. From there, things escalated

I went up to the cabin to try and figure out what was going on

She started yelling at me about just leaving her with her son when she was sick

I stated that we offered to take him, to which she declined. I then told her that all she had to do was ask, to which she told me

No, she shouldn't have to ask. We should just do it. There should be mind readers

This is where I may have reacted poorly. She is not talking to my uncle due to a situation that started from her having expectations

not voicing them, and then blowing up on him. My brother and she were just rekindling their relationship due to the same reason

I told her that she needs to stop having expectations of people without voicing them

Then freaking out when those expectations don't happen. I told her that that is exactly why my brother has minimal contact with her and my uncle has zero contact with her

I grabbed her son and went down to the dock and realizing how ill prepared we were to have a three-year-old in the open sun

I messaged her husband explaining the situation and he brushed it off as she has anxiety

My sister-in-law and her best friend started making comments about how if she was going to be like that, she was not welcome to stay, to which I agreed

I tried to give her time, knowing my sister, but my husband started telling me I had to make things right, no matter what it took

I tried to apologize many times, but she ignored me. She started messaging me, saying things like

If you're going to trap me here in the middle of nowhere and tell me everyone hates me, you could have just done it when I was at home

Rather than arguing about what was said I went against my better judgment and said I sorry for what I said out of anger I shouldn have said it She made a comment about being in a mood for the next three days until she leaves which I knew meant she would keep her mood and attitude for the rest of the trip

Don't you hate it when people just have an attitude? Why? What did I ever do to you

Yeah, why are you in a toot? You're so right about that, girl. I've never been in a toot

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but I got to tell you, I've been loving these pearls that I got in Columbia

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Crack open that oyster and get doubloons. But let's get back to the story. I told her she could take the night to get a good night's sleep and get her head on straight

but if she didn't snap out of the mood, my husband would give her a ride to a hotel for the rest of her stay

She immediately responded that she would take the ride now and leave. You would think that would be the end, but no

Apparently, my sister realized that a last-minute hotel at the location would be $2,000 plus

My husband came back saying my sister was staying and yelling at me in front of his sister and her friend

I don't know what my sister told him, I said, but she showed him the message where I apologized for what I said

I tried to explain to him that keeping her there was a horrible idea and that he didn't know the past or history with her

She had to go. It was the only option. In the end, I actually ended up leaving

I drove my beater as I have been rear-ended two weeks before the wedding

making my good car unsafe to drive. So I bought a beater to get through. Through a sketchy mountain pass with zero cell phones at reception at 11 p.m

Why is your husband yelling at you? Yeah, you should never be yelling at your partner

No, yelling is uncalled for. I think that the husband likes his sister, or has liked his sister in the past

There is a lot of drama revolving around my sister that I thought we were past, but it was all brought back up

Plus, I was on hormones for fertility treatment, and I'm bipolar, but normally well-medicated

Driving home, seeing the way my husband just sided with my sister, never getting my side of the story or letting me tell it mixed with everything else

I started getting thoughts of driving off the cliff or into a barricade Ooh I hope you okay When I got home I dropped my dog off and made the decision to go to the psych ward for an evaluation I was released within eight hours as they agreed it was hormones mixed with a lot happening

They just gave me something to sleep as they deemed my normal meds good for normal day

to day life. My husband took 24 hours to come home even after I told him I was going to the psych ward

You're done. Like, what the heck? I'm sorry. You just found out your partner, your wife was in a psych ward and you didn't come home

That's messed up. That's a big deal, man. Huge deal. Anyone in my family knows my sister understands the situation

My mom used to record all their conversations because my sister would manipulate what was said

For a long time, my mom would lock herself in the room before my sister got home so she didn't have to endure her wrath

Needless to say, my sister will never be in my life again. With my husband, he says things like, I was trying to save a relationship with your nephew

He never admits he did anything wrong in his eyes. People tell me you never go against your husband or wife when they make a decision

or if you question it, you have a conversation in private. The fact that he just believed my sister, who he had met once before

without getting my side of the story, is another hard spot. I feel like he totally betrayed me in that moment

The way it took him 24 hours to come home after I went to the psych ward also makes me question if he cares

He keeps saying he thought I'd come back, or that we had taken the time off and paid for the cabin

I just don't know if I am in the wrong for wanting a divorce over this entire situation

no your husband betrayed you he didn't care that you were in the psych ward he yelled at you just

overall i'm like this can't be the first or last time that this is gonna happen yeah absolutely

these aren't things that are kind of like oh you have to understand the whole situation it's like

no you should never be yelling at your partner if your partner is in this psych ward that should be

a big deal and you should be there for them so come on come on comments comment one why did you

take others on your honeymoon this has to be fake if it's not why are you in contact with any of

these people i forgot that there was a honeymoon op says i wish it was fake we rent the cabin every

summer and it's definitely better with more people his sister and her friend are great to have there

it was a cheap place to go after an expensive wedding i no longer talk to my sister i wouldn't

say i'm close with his sister or her friend i only see them every summer at the cabin as for my

husband well we are married and i have been contemplating divorce and working through it

since. Comment two, this situation doesn't seem divorce worthy. It needs couples therapy. How did

you get married and didn't discuss family issues? You should have talked about the relationship

between you and your sister so he understood from the beginning. As well, you should never

have invited her. You knew your relationship with her and the BS she pulls. You brought this on

yourself. If a discussion was had about how crappy of a person she is while you were still dating or

engaged then he would have a clue This is not on your husband This is completely on you well okay I don know if I agree with that I feel like that a little bit unfair Kind of makes the situation like all black and white It like maybe she should have told him but also he shouldn have yelled at her and

also not been around her for 24 hours. Exactly. OP, things with my sisters are complicated

She got sober and everyone was telling me how much she had changed. Her and my relationship seemed a lot better, although only seeing her in person every two years

I have tried to move on with my life And don't like bringing up the past

I don't even live close to my family anymore So I just took the words of everyone else

He's aware of everything that happened with my uncle and brother I'm not sure past

That's why he decided to side with her Other than him saying he was trying to save

Our relationship with my nephew And there is an update to finish this story off Wow

An update I agree I think that is not necessarily divorce worthy

But I do think couples counseling is a need because it's totally inappropriate behavior from him

Right, and it kind of just shows, like, well, in future conflicts and stuff

like, is this going to just continue to happen if we don't confront this problem, you know

Yeah, is this how you're going to treat me every time we have an argument? I think that, like, how you deal with conflict

is, like, the most important thing in a relationship, you know? Agreed. So they got to figure that out

There is an update. Yes, we brought people on our honeymoon. His sister and her friend come with us

every summer to that cabin, and it gets boring quickly to be in the middle of nowhere with no internet or TV

Having more people means more games and more socialization. It was a cheap honeymoon after an expensive wedding

as renting the cabin on a private lake is only $400 for the week

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But there's a little teeny wee bit left of the story, so let's finish it off

Yes, I'm off fertility meds. I'm not sure why everyone is assuming I'm still on them while considering a divorce

It was just background as to why I reacted as extremely as I did. I know my reaction was a little extreme

And if I wasn't on the meds or if my dream car hadn't been totaled two weeks prior

or if everything else hadn't taken place in such a short period, I know I wouldn't have ended up in the psych ward

And that is the end of the story. Wow. I'm so sorry

OP. Our lovely follower and member of our community. that's very hard no i mean your husband is not being kind or understanding and i think you gotta

have a conversation with him and be like hey why did you react that way because that was a really

intense reaction especially when i was clearly going through a lot right like there's gotta be

some sort of deeper meaning to it you know it's always best to jump to counseling rather than

jumping to divorce even if it ends in divorce i mean just counsel just to see what's going on

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