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op surprised his wife by getting home
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early from a business trip then he came
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home to a scary scene the man saw his
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wife in bed with her lover he could have
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talked to them but instead he recorded
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them as proof he then left and left her
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history let's read today's story to find
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out what went on I told my three-year
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partner X that I would be back on Sunday
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after a week-long work trip you see I
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booked a flight yesterday to surprise
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her with a date for her birthday which I
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would have missed otherwise I sent ex a
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happy birthday message yesterday morning
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and asked what she had planned for the
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day she told me she was going to have a
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movie night with a friend who lives in
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our building I said it again I can't
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wait to get home on Sunday she told me
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she loved me and couldn't wait it was
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very painful to write and remember this
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but I parked my car on the street in
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front of the house when I got home I
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couldn't see any lights on our balcony
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when I walked through the code gate
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since I saw that y's lights were on I
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thought that X would be there her
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apartment was on the ground floor so I
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didn't even have to go inside I could
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see her watching TV alone from her
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window I thought X might be away so I
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went up our three flights of stairs
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when I got close to the door I heard it
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and my heart sank R andb Music moaning
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and knocking I mean the door wasn't even
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locked and the way it was set up let
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them see right into our
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bedroom I barely opened the door and saw
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my girlfriend sitting on top of
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someone I recognized right away as a guy
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from the gym where we both go I think
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what caught my attention most was that I
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could see everything so it looked like
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sex as I softly shut the door I felt
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like my soul had left my body I was sure
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they didn't hear me or see the door I
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thought about this for 5 minutes while
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sitting on the step it has always been
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my worst nightmare but to see it happen
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exactly the way I thought it would with
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another guy in our bed broke my
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heart it was was so strange that I
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cry was this really going on were my
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dreams real I quickly came back to Earth
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when the sounds kept going I stood up
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and walked out of the building toward
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the front gate anyway why saw me through
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the window and called out to me he waved
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and told me to come over she and I had
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to get along great and she had told ex
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how much she liked me as a friend in the
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past she also told ex that she thought I
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was pretty and asked if I had any single
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friends from New Zealand who were also
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from that country when I met why for the
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first time there was Vibes between us
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but I never thought about that
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again I pretended to be brave and went
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into her room after we hugged she asked
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me why I was going home early I told her
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I mixed up our dates and asked her why
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she wasn't having birthday drinks with
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ex she looked lost and told me that ex
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told her she was meeting up with some
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gym friends for drinks it makes sense I
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started crying right away and didn't
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stop for what seemed like hours she
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started to worry and ask what was wrong
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did something happen to me Etc I didn't
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know what to say but I finally out loud
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said that I had just seen them in our
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bed the color of her face turned so
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white that she hugged me and began to
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cry she knew I was joking but I think
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she also knew this wasn't a joke I began
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to talk by saying I had no idea what to
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do they could stay up there all night
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and this was my worst fear our
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relationship was fine except that she
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wasn't interested in having sex it's a
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wonder I stayed with her for 3 years but
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I knew that a long time ago I laughed
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through her tears as she told me that
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she had never been with someone and
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hadn't had sex in the the whole time she
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knew me I joked that maybe we could both
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use it I laughed a little too and then I
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hugged her and thanked her for a second
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I forgot that ex was cheating on me
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upstairs I asked her to let me stay the
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night because I had nowhere else to go I
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slept on the couch I'm still here after
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a day I was crying when I saw the guy
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come back this evening after seeing him
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morning tomorrow afternoon I should be
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home EX and I haven't texted each other
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all day to be honest why is the only
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thing that makes me feel better right
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now what should I do about X should I
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walk up and talk to them should I
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call first I want to thank everyone for
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their thoughts suggestions and comments
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I'm still reading all the comments as
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fast as I can thanks to those who said I
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should have had a spine or backbone I'd
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say the same things to someone else to
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be honest since this is my first time
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dealing with cheating it was easier for
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me to judge until it happened to anyway
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let me answer a few questions first
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before I tell you what happened
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today we I'm in charge of my own
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business from start to finish about
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three times a year I travel to meet with
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factories and check the quality of my
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products in person for sure I can defend
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myself I'm 6' 6 in and 124 k kilog and I
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play rugby and have done a lot of
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boxing however I don't use that in
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public there is no way that I am not
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taller than that jerk being divorced
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won't hurt our finances because both X
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and I make good money we are not married
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tears have been shed I understand that
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this was a trick and I know what I need
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to do we each pay half of the rent for
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our apartment and we have 4 months and a
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week left on our one-year lease we were
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really trying to find a house to buy I
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there aside from her attitude she is
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beautiful I will never understand why
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she hasn't always been single X also
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says she hasn't been sexual with anyone
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in more than 3 years she has always been
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by my side and never said anything bad
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about ex she knows that what she did to
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me was wrong and has nothing to do with
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her still she has said that she will
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probably stop being friends with ex once
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she admits what she did she hasn't tried
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to jump on me like a rebound she's just
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been really nice and helpful that alone
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says a lot about her character ex works
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in a hospital and is a beautiful nice
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woman but she can be very focused on
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herself we were mostly just friends
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looking back because she doesn't want to
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get pregnant or take the pill we've only
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had safe sex a few times I guess I just
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got used to the way things were in the
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relationship and accepted them as they
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were it's hard for me to understand how
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she never even showed that she was
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cheating even though I'm not perfect
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I've always been nice to her I cooked
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for her and helped out around the house
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we often went on dates I told her nice
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things about herself to make her feel
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loved but she never responded after a
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good night now I'm wondering why she
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stayed for so long if she didn't want me
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I was going to call her this morning to
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let her know that my flight would be
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leaving earlier and that she could pick
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me up at the airport earlier the airport
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is a 40-minute drive away so I would use
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this time to quickly pack all of my
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things and get to my car I told me I
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could put some of it in her extra room
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when ex found out my things were stolen
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she would try to call text Etc me but
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all I would do is send her a picture of
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them in bed I thought that not having an
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end would be the cruestv
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that would hurt our friendship even
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though I know that's what will
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happen I got up early in the morning and
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opened the door very quietly I was able
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to take a picture of them because they
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were asleep on the bed but it was weird
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I almost felt bad about breaking private
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when my whole relationship was broken I
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no longer felt sad instead I was angry
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and hurt I saw his shoes on the floor
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next to my many much bigger pairs I
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picked to take a picture of them and use
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it first I thought it would be a more
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delicate way to get her to lie until I
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showed her a picture of them in bed I
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went back down to wise and waited for
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another hour or so until I was sure X
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would be awake I called three times but
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got no answer each time when I looked at
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why we both knew what was going on it
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had been about 30 minutes when she
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called me she sounded fully awake and
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like everything was fine I tried to
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sound like myself and told her my flight
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was 2 hours earlier than I thought I
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asked her if she could pick me up at
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noon she said yes and that she loved me
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she also told me that she was having
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breakfast with her parents and that they
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said hello on that note why her parents
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love me and will'll be very upset about
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this I laid down for a few few hours to
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think about what else I could get from
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the flat besides clothes and a few
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appliances because I knew it would be
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easy to move if we bought a house most
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of my stuff was already packed up I saw
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X go to the parking lot around
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noon I waited a few minutes after she
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left before moving my car and going
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upstairs the room smelled like air
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freshener and the bed had new sheets and
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covers on it it was time to clean up she
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did everything she could to hide the
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fact that someone else had been there it
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didn't take me long to get everything
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together I most likely didn't care if I
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forgot something it was strange to think
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about leaving the place I called home
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but I was strong she texted me to see
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where I was because she was at the
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arrivals area I answered that I was late
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and would use her house after an hour or
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so I got a bunch of missed calls and
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texts asking where all my stuff was and
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if something had happened when I sent
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the shoe picture and said these aren't
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my size my heart almost stopped she was
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so bold as to say that they belonged to
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her brother because he picked her up to
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go to her parents house did I not say
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she would do that I didn't want to talk
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about it but I knew she was in a tight
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spot so I sent her the picture of them
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in bed and that was it she didn't even
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try to call I thought thought there
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would be a lot of calls or texts I saw
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that as me leaving her I know I could
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have told her I knew or caught them in
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the act and talked to them about it but
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I wanted her to know I did know and that
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she would never be able to explain
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herself or know how I'm not going to
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spoil her life or hurt her reputation
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because that's not in me she can live
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with this forever though and I don't
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think she has a conscience I left wi
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because I know ex will be there soon to
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see her and I met up with some friends
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nearby to get today's recap to share
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with you all but for y this would have
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been a lot harder I know she will stop
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being friends with x in the next day or
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two I'm okay and looking forward it hurt
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at first but I'm glad I found out now
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instead of after we bought a house I
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emailed the property manager to let her
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know that we were breaking up quickly
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and that she could would keep the bond
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and our rent until the lease was up I
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believe that X will feel the most pain
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when Y and I start dating that's great
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op I'm glad to hear that you didn't put
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up with any of the crap your ex did and
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have already moved on there is no need
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for you to give her any kind of
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conclusion what she did was wrong and
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she needs to pay for the pain she caused
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you I would stay away from why right now
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if I were you I think that's too soon
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for you to do that what I would do
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instead is call your family and friends
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tell them what happened and ask if you
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can stay with them for a while get in
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touch with your owner and tell them what
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happened if you have a lease with her
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they can get you kicked out I hope
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everything works out for you opa