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I'm Shalon. And I'm Shantel, and we are in a polyamorous struggle
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I've always known that, okay, I think girls are beautiful. I never had a threesome before
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I've never been a woman before. I'm looking like, okay, well, if we're doing this, we're doing this
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We do get a lot of judgment for our relationship. The ladies don't like each other on the low
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I should no longer be allowed to procreate in life. So what happens if he cheats on the second wife
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What I found the hardest to deal with was my dad having an affair. I was mad
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It was hard for me to hold it together. I don't want to talk about it. No, I enjoy cooking, though
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I am not going to lie. I enjoy cooking because making a good meal brings the family together
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We are the Porter family. Shalon is my beautiful first wife. We have two children together
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This is my second wife, Chantel. And last year, we had a beautiful baby girl, Saraya, that also came in the picture
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spanning our family to a wonderful, great number six. You consider us polygamists, which is a man with multiple wives
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I am the wife to Alex and the sister wife to Chantel
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Alex is my boyfriend. Each of them are individual relationships. Mine and Chantel's relationship is different from mine and Shalon
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There's a special bond that me and Alex have just because we've grown up together and we've persevered over so much
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He stopped coming home after work. Every day after work, he just come home, shower, I'm going to hang out with the boys
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come home, shower, and go and hang out with the boys. And eventually something just told me, hey, just look at his phone
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And when I opened up his phone, he had screenshots of him and her
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And then I had texted him what I'd seen, and he actually just told me
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I'm seeing someone else. I don't want to talk about it anymore. Can I boss for a tissue
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Thanks. I've always been open-minded. I've always known that, okay, I think girls are beautiful
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I liked her a lot Chantel energy never came off as aggressive or like I your replacement I didn have a reason to be mad at Chalonne And from that point I was like okay
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let's just continue to go about the night and see where it flows to. I never had a threesome before. I'd never been with a woman before. I'm looking like, okay, well
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if we're doing this, we're doing this. The backlash that we get from our social media
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yes, we get a lot. The comments be like, oh my God, he's a manipulator. He ain't nothing
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They were trying to put me and Shalane against each other. They write you in your DMs and tell you the same thing in your DMs
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They feel you're not responding to the comment. Wife. This is directed at me
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Leave the situation. Let them have each other and find yourself. Somebody save me
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No. I'm fine in my situation. I'm not held hostage. If I want to leave, I can leave
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We did start a whole campaign. Hashtag free Shalane. Free me. I should no longer be allowed to procreate in life
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That's just an overall slug. It's like, damn, like that keyboard life is real
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That thugging behind the keyboard. Y'all thumb shit hurts sometimes. I don't even see how y'all can be keyboard thugging
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But then you see me in public and it's like, oh, you're a really nice person. I like you
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The ladies don't like each other on the low. Oh, they be like, you see how she looks at her
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She hates her. They put us against each other all the time
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And like, if you don't me, you know damn well I do not compete with nobody for nothing
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They like each other. They dislike me. I can't believe people are normalizing cheating
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Normalizing cheating, you look up the definition of cheating. Everybody in this situation is in the know
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So how can it be cheating from the beginning? That's what they mean. You already go back on our whole thing of how this situation came about
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I know people don't like the cheating aspect portion of it that I did. You know, it was horrible
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I would admit it was horrible. It was selfish. But we both had a little situation of infidelity
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So for everybody that was like, oh she should have cheated back she did She did So what happens if he cheats on the second wife I mean he would just cheat on the second wife I wouldn be able to just cheat on the second wife
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I'd be cheating on both of them again. You know what the..
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I wonder how he'd feel if the shoe was on the other foot. Would you be open to accepting if his wife wanted another man
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This question gets asked a lot. No, the shoe doesn't have to be on the other foot. It's on my foot
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It's on his foot. It's on her foot. He's always told me if I feel like going out and getting me another man or woman, it's my choice
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This is sick and disgusting, especially when there are children involved. When they involve the children, that should not even be a thought
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I would leave the children completely out of it. How you feel they're being raised, whatever they're being exposed to
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You're questioning my ability to raise my child. You're questioning what I'm exposing to the children
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Nah, mind your damn business. As long as you don't speak about any of our kids, you can say whatever you want about all of us
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You know, of course you're going to get ridiculed behind people behind online. That's what online does. That's what the internet does
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The internet serves negativity. Appreciate y'all spreading the knowledge of what's possible for unions and relationships
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Definitely understand that's a heavy cross to carry, but y'all do it with extreme style and grace
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Definitely appreciated that. It's so dope to always have that type of support and those kind words to be given to you
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These are clearly people who took a tough situation and grew, learned and healed through it
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Yes. I like that one. I remember reading that one because I was like, that's exactly what happened
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Nobody ever asked her that question before. People don't understand that there's different dynamics of a relationship
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You can love people the way you want to love people and it doesn't matter how other people feel
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What I found the hardest to deal with was my dad having an affair. I was mad, if you want me to be honest
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Before Chantel came around, I have never heard the term poly. I kind of understood what was going on
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My relationship with Chantel was awkward at first but over time I kind of just started to accept her more Thank thank you No she wants yours She wants mine I just happy Chantel a part of my family now
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and I could actually look at her as another mom. She even gave me a little sister
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I've been asking for a little sister for the longest. I just took it for what it was
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and as long as they were happy, as long as they see my mom happy. Me and Chalon, we did used to be in a relationship romantically
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and now our new dynamic is we do date Alex separately. What is the challenges of sharing the bed together
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All three of us. We each have a designated spot to sleep at. Me, it's the middle
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Like, they will put me in the middle. I've asked for the edge repeatedly. It is hot in the middle
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It's funny. I know. I lost my napkin. So I leave the bed and I go sleep on the couch
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The plan for the day is getting ready, going out, and celebrating this beautiful young lady's 21st
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It's my baby. It's my baby. My oldest baby. the first official 21 birthday drink with her parents i know i'm excited
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no you're excited no these are official new orlean green i believe how far we came as a family
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is leaps and bounds we started off in a rocky position but we grew to know each other and learn
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how to love each other in different ways and different fashions. And I think as the days go by
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we continue to learn each other and build our love even stronger. I always let the positive over shine the negative
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Anything is possible as long as y'all are really ready to do the work, commit to the situation
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and let love win overall. Life is an adventure. Yes, yes. And that's what we're going to live by