Is Monogamy Outdated?

um so my question is is monogamy

outdated or we just don't want to hold each other accountable

anymore because wo it's not a new thing it's not a new

thing that um people are cheating it's not a new thing that people are not

faithful to whom they date with it's not a new thing but I'm seeing how most

women are also getting so comfortable that all men

cheat some even go as far as saying no as long as I don't find out no as long

as he comes back home oh that's

sad that is so sad that is so sad this

is you saying you've accepted that you could be cheated on you've accepted that it's

going to happen but as long as he comes back home to

you are you are you a fool where is he going to go he's going to go where he

stays he's got to sleep he's got to freshen up of course he's going to come

it doesn't mean that he's coming home to you that's where he stays what do you expect but

again I think it's very sad I think that it's very sad that uh most women are are

finding themselves in a position where they say stuff like this that ah as long as I hey all men cheat as long as he

comes back home it's very sad and to me that says

most men have failed you know they continue to fail

women to a point where women women don't even expect better anymore from men they

don't expect um they don't expect them to be faithful

anymore it's like they get into these relationships and tell themselves you know what

I know I'm going to get cheated on so I might as well just accept and know what I'm getting myself

into and that's very sad the way things are going the way things are going and

how I'm also hearing most women being open to polygamy this is this let's just

be honest guys this has got nothing to do with oh no maybe they are so secure

that they don't want no they are so secure that they don't have a problem with men they are men being with other

women no they are open to polygamy

because they've accepted that there's going to be another woman there's always

going to be another woman and if you're a woman and that's your

mindset and you just feel like every man that you going to be with is going to

cheat on you I think it's it's very sad that you

approach relationships with that mindset and I know most wom are are going

through that and honestly you can't blame or judge them I know some of these

things are a way that people want to leave a

room for disappointment in their hearts for when they find out that this

actually happened they got cheated all they'll be like oh yeah I know all men cheat so I'm going to leave him and I'm

go and I'm going to date that next one and he's going to do the same thing so I might as well just

settle that's so sad that's so sad that that's the reality of most women now and

man it's tough it's tough to

do it's very tough I'm not going to lie so I I am

not I am not judging those women but I'm just saying that's a sad way to live

that's a said way to live um to to be to get into relationships

with that mindset that you're going to get cheated on and you settle anyway I

want to say as much as you're a good woman watching this video they are good men

out there yeah there are good men out there and I'm talking about high quality men men

who who are faithful to the women they choose men who are loyal to the Bone

there are those men out there they are those men out there they are there

there's no way that there'll be good women who don't cheat in a world where you can't even find a single man who

don't cheat no that's impossible there are great men out there and men who would be

like you know what instead of choosing instead of using and cheating

on the woman I chose I'd rather just dump her leave her alone and pursue this

one that just got me attracted so they would dump you and build with someone

else because if they feel that they are attracted to someone else and you're in

a relationship with them they're not even going to feel that they love you and they wouldn't want to be with you if

that's how they're going to treat you so they're just going to leave you and be with someone else and they're going to

show her love loyalty and

devotion instead of cheating on her and creating this toxic environment in a

relationship when they could have just avoided all of that and just DP do and

pursued this beautiful new relationship there are men out there

like that so to to to see most women

not hoping that they'll find themselves a loyal man who chooses them and not use

them a loyal man who who has his own self-respect and his own self love cuz

if you have self love you're not going to hurt the people you are in relations

with you're not going to hurt your friends you're not going to hurt your your your your love partners because you

are you are choosing to be good to them because you are good

to yourself that's it that is it so I I believe like that I believe

believe that there's no way a person would truly love themselves and hurt other people true love within

yourself when it gets out other people they are going to get a piece of that

and that's powerful man that's very powerful so just as someone who respects

themselves they're not going to do the things that are going to disrespect other people they're not going to put

themselves in a position where someone is looking at them and like you disrespected me no people will respect

themselves it it shows even the way they treat other people you can see that you can see that

oh this has got respect written all over it because it's done by someone who

respect themselves I hope you understand what I'm trying to say so man it's it's

really it's really interesting way for for most women to be finding

themselves in this and I'm seeing others will marry these men and they were like and they'll be like yeah I know I know I

know what I was getting myself into I know who I married I know I know I know

all of that and that is true settling you are settling for

Less before you even settled you had already consciously made a decision that

I'm going to settle for less and that's and that's sad it it's

one of the signs of no hope you don't you don't hope that you you you get

someone who who's worth fighting for and I'm talking about someone who's loyal I'm

talking about someone who is faithful to the Bone because they are there they are

there they are so faithful the type of man who get in a relationship and their

head is filled with this woman that they are in a relationship with she's all

they think about she's all they think about she's all they they they plan for

she's everything to them and they just want to pursue life they want to grow with this woman they are men like that

they are men like that don't let social media dating standards ruin that for you

don't let them don't let them do that for you those people are there so I just

made this video to talk about this thing of how women have now gotten so how

women have now gotten so rested at this idea that they are

going to get cheated on by every guy that they date and they don't leave these toxic relationships cuz they they

have it in their mind that all men cheat most they do but not all so don't

settle man don't settle when you just found out that this

happened because there are so many things um at risk your

time your health not only your physical health as in like social um sexual

transmitted diseases but also so your mental health um I I know for a fact that when

you're finding out that someone you are with is not loyal

and faithful to you that tends to make people that tends to make people feel

like they they are not good enough they are not pretty enough and this is one of

the most this is one of the reasons why people would be going for all these

surgeries because they they start feeling like there's something wrong with them they start doing all these

things that um doing all these things that

would uh give them that look that new modern

look of how pretty uh women should be looking maybe they they think if they

change them themselves into having those nose jobs those tiny little Noob all

stuff like that they they feel that maybe then um they would be loved they

will be desired more but it's it's not about that it's about you it's about who

you are you can change yourself however and the very same people who rejected you yesterday they're still going to

reject you tomorrow you can you can do all those alterations but you're still

the same person so if you're going to still be the same person and it does not

guarantee that you're going to be desired they going to love you like genuinely love you I'm not talking about

lust talking about love cuz that's what you want if you getting all these surgeries there's not guarantee that

you're going to get that from them then why do it there's no guarantee

why why do it why do it why change yourself then you might as well just be

be who you are and just roll with people who roll with you

everybody has their own people no matter how weird you think you are trust me there are people who are going to get

your sense of humor there are people who are going to be happy with you who would not even want to change anything about

you cuz they think you're so perfect everyone has their own people there are

people who find themselves Rich oh sexy but but I

don't I'd be like okay yes you've got all of these things

but you're not one of my people you you I don't feel you and that be someone

just a simple person who thinks they are boring but they are very

intelligent and maybe they like science maybe they are athletic I they are funny

and then they think uh they're weird or they are just and then I'm like oh wait

a minute I like it I like it and they be

like Oh serious I'm like yeah you know everybody has their own people everybody

has their own people I have my people I have people who don't understand my sense of humor I have people who

understand my sense of humor and all my God every time I come across people who understand my sense of humor that makes

me so happy like oh you actually do get me and when I make subtle jokes and they

get those jokes I'm like what like it always just surprises me

that oh wait a minute this person actually gets me so I don't even have to always constantly explaining myself to

this person that they just get me and yeah man I'm I'm at a place in my life

where I understand I'm not everybody's cup of tea and not everyone is my cup of

tea and that's okay that's okay so yeah man that's it that's it um oh

I've said a lot I've said a lot but I do remember I was here talking about how

women are so comfortable with settling for Less because of the idea that all men cheat

and that's very sad I don't know what happened I don't know what's going to happen but the men of this world have

been failing the women of this world to a point where women don't even expect

good quality anymore women don't expect the best because they just talk

to themselves that all of these people are the same even if they're not but

because there's no hope in the in the leaders of the world and oh evil world

has leaders whom's women have lost respect for

because they are not seen as good leaders anymore then it's a

problem it's a problem maybe that's why most of these things are

happening this fight between men and women men especially in the black

community um I don't know they keep fighting fighting men are fighting

women women are fighting men the black men are say hey we're going to date

white women Y and then on the other side um the white men are like we are

attracted to black women black women are like we don't want black men anymore we like ourselves white men because they

treat us better stuff like that it's all just it's all just part of this War it's

all just part of this war and I've also seen how most men in the black community are like when I get super rich I'm going

to get myself a white woman and then white women are like women are woman

women are all the same and you can to as a white woman if you're watching

this uh I hope you you know what I'm talking about and um I'm also hoping

that us as woman black or white

we we don't fall into the strap of these men trying

to cause this Rift there's already a rift because of race but then in woman

would we we can't we can't afford there to be conflicts we can't afford there to

be conflicts caused by man because

um we I don't know this all nonsensical thing so I'm just hoping that we all

just stick together as women and realize that this this has got nothing to do with us

as women but it's just part of a war and our men are making us fight each other

they want us to hate each other and we should not allow that we should not

allow that I once come across such a funny post it was of

a black guy he was saying something nasty about black women and then he said

um he said something along say yeah no black women suck so stuff like that and

then white and black women they commented and they said that the white

the white women were like no no no no no no he don't want you and then the white

woman said yeah black wom you can have them and black women said no no child girl we don't want this thing you don't

and now all women were rejecting him from all Races and I was like yeah man I liked how the women were all standing up

and white women like we don't accept this this crap and then black women like yeah we don't want this crap either and

then he was all alone standing there with no one choosing him and I liked I

liked how how it turned out I liked how women were not fighting against each other and they were like you know what

if this is the way this man treats women then no woman should choose to be with

this man cuz why are you disrespecting women so I liked how that was handled

and yeah man it was powerful it was powerful what women can do when we just

stick together it was it was beautiful and I like that I like that we don't

have to fight we don't have to fight each other we don't have to do that one

of the things I also wish to see amongst um women is for when yes the m has

cheated on you and you find out and you happen to to get the woman's

contacts yes could ask did you did you know that he's married did you know that

he has a girlfriend and stuff like this ask you know and most of the time you'll

actually come to find out that um she didn't even know she was lied to

you know she was lied to so as a woman why are you being angry why are you

being angry at this woman who has also deceived so instead of fighting her or

calling her names why don't you question the the culprit here why don't

you question the man the both of you ladies why don't you just put him in a

corner and ask him why you you you know just instead of

you girls fighting calling each other names fighting for this man yo leave my

man leave my man he's my man do you know how ridiculous you look when you both

fighting for man and he's standing there like yeah yo stop fighting stop

fighting that's so ridiculous every time I see a situation like that I'm

like this man is here folding his arms like this and

there are his two women fighting against each other no he's my man no he's my man

do you know that's a that's a EO boost that's a ego boost for this man

cuz he's like yeah I've got two girls fighting over

me why you why are you doing that ladies why are we fighting each other when we

should be fighting the deceiver so I'm really hoping that in

the future stuff like this they change and I've seen there are very matured

women out there who would like text each other hey I found your number on my husband's phone who are you no I'm Miss

what what I didn't know about you and they have a decent conversation I respect that cuz why are we fighting why

are we fighting and yeah I mean I respect that and again

sometimes there are some women who just want to make things difficult I came

across a tweet it was like screenshots that were taken from uh Tik toks um

content and the question was asking side checks if they have any regrets dating a

married man and most of the comments on the the the

scien chicks they said they have no regrets they loved dating this married man how he's the best how he treated him

them with love and respect how he does everything for them

and that that really made me sad that really

made me sad [Music] that some women they lack

empathy some women lack empathy listen yes I'm not an angel but I promise you I

don't remember being intentionally being in a relationship with a man who's

married because I'm thinking to myself bro it would hurt me being married and

finding out that my husband has this girlfriend it would hurt so I don't want

to put any woman any woman in that position I've once came across a guy um

very good-looking you know so established and I Googled him you know

he he's like heating up on me stuff like that and I Googled him um

and I'm I'm seeing that okay so this man is actually married he's married has a

family he's got Sons two sons and I'm looking at these pictures

and I can see this is a solid family like sometimes they take pictures with his in-laws like this is a solid family

and I'm thinking to myself whoo okay then I I didn't want to jump in to

conclusions and then now I'm asking him like are you married like are you and then he's like

yeah and then I'm like but why are you here and then since that time I said to

him listen if you have any problems in your marriage go home and fix your marriage but I'm not going to be your

girlfriend I'm not going to be a woman who's going to um rip apart even further

another woman's marriage I do not want to be that that woman because also I

can't risk having a child with a married man what am I going to say to my child well I'm not married to your father

because your father went back to his wife because I knew that your father had a wife and now we had we did what we did

and you came and now your your father's family which is his children they don't

want you because you're a bastard is that the type of life I want for my

child I I don't want that I don't want to bring anyone in a situation like that

I don't want to bring anyone in such a toxic bad situation it's it's very bad

it's very bad I don't want that I don't want that so this post I'm I'm even seeing that

some of these side chaks ended up being pregnant with the with the these married

men's children and they were like yeah we even have a child now we've been together for 12 years and I'm like what

so this married man has been cheating on his wife for more than what for more

than so many years cuz he's been with the side chick for 12 years and now I'm

thinking to myself you're you've been a side chick for 12 years you could have

been married you could have had your own man by now but you are wasting your time with a man who's already committed to

someone else who's married to someone else and that's very sad and some of

them would even say stuff like yeah he even passed away and um my children got

the same money as the children in his marriage and I'm like wow then if this

is how things are then marriage should

actually some some marriage laws should should actually be changed married women

and their children they must be really protected like if you are married and

you commit stuff like this and it's find it's found out that you have children

out elsewhere elsewhere I don't know what's going to happen but the law should be

very fair to your children in marriage and your wife and the side chick out

there I don't know what she's going to do but at least because we don't want children to suffer these children from

outside of the marriage yeah maybe they can get something something but it shouldn't be that now they they and

their mother who's the side check now they've got all of this access all of

this access as if like you guys were in a polygamous relationship with a wife

it's so unfair it's so unfair so man yeah it's these type of things we still

have women who who are just okay with doing this to other women's marriages

and I'm not I'm not blaming women I'm saying but if you know that the man is married and you are being in a

relationship with him you have no empathy we can't we

can't we can't flourish as

women we can't flourish as women when more women don't have empathy we need

more empathy in this world I'm thinking that um women are

supposed to be loving nourishing you know but if it's going to

be women hurting other women um

guys I don't think some people realize how dark

and deep this thing of cheating really is finding out that the person you're

worth has been sleeping with someone else do you know how many people have died because of finding out that um how

many people have been killed because of their Partners finding out that they

cheated do you know how many people I'm talking about men and women let me not only talk about women who've been killed

but they are men there are men who've been killed by their governance there was this story here in South Africa

where this man was training very young couple a very young beautiful couple

this guy cheated and his young girlfriend stepped him to

death stepped him brutally to death why because he cheated and again when it

comes to Woman we all know gender based violence in South Africa we all know how

many how many men have killed their wives and

girlfriends because of finding out that they have cheated we all know that

so um there's a recent story I found out that this guy is this guy he found out

that his wife was cheating on him and then he hired hitman's to kill the

boyfriend so how this guy was killed he was in a car with a wife and then the

heatman saw them together and it was said that the heatman shot both the wife

and the boyfriend and it was the heat was called by the husband obviously so

do you see guys also dating a married woman it puts you at risk because

you never know how her husband is going to react now yes that guy he died

because he was messing with somebody else's wife so yeah man these are the things

these are the things that just makes my mind

go but yeah I mean it is what it is it

is what it is I wish I could say stuff like um maybe in the near future it's

going to be better I don't see this getting any better I think as time goes

on people are just going to grow I don't know fake skin or people

are just it's just going to be a nor and that's very sad it's very sad and yeah

man that's all I wanted to say I hope I don't have to cut some other parts I

hope I'm just going to post this video as it is cuz I've said a lot said a lot my initial

plan was to only talk about women settling for less but I ended up even talking about cheating people killing

people because of cheating and all of this but I'm hoping that you're going to enjoy this I'm hoping that you're going

to enjoy this so thank you so much for everyone who kept watching and yeah man

have a good day have a lovely day don't cheat

sheet I wish I could say don't get cheated on but it's it's it's not under your

control so yeah man just don't settle for

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