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The Pressure to Do It All: Why It's Time to Let Go
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Jun 5, 2025
Feeling the pressure to be everything all the time? In this video, we break down the myth of 'having it all' and why striving for perfection is not only unrealistic but exhausting. It’s time to reclaim your own definition of success. Let’s redefine balance together—on your terms And here is the video I promissed to link for you. https://youtu.be/W5xGUuHv9LQ?si=7JkWjXp7_BlPmf4- #feminism #SelfImprovement #MentalHealth #Mindset #Youtuber #Wellbeing
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hello there welcome to my YouTube
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channel and I'm definitely not yet to
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waste your time so let's get right to it
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today we are talking about something
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that we are all way too familiar with
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mhm the never- ending pressure to do it
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all I'm talking about being the woman
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who is somehow slaying a 9 to5 running a
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Flawless home raising well maned
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children who love vegetables and having
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a relationship that's so perfect and
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still making time for yourself like
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attending your yoga class making
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yourself some
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goon um some green smoothies attending
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your book clubs and at least getting
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eight hours of sleep a day like
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seriously who came up with this insane
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script who came up with this insane
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script let's stop it right there okay
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because here's the secret this idea of
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having it all doing it all is nothing
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but an illusion designed to keep us
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feeling like we are never quite good
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enough and we we're not doing that we
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are not doing that to ourselves anymore
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right right so today we're breaking down
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exactly why this mentality is harmful
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how it messes up our mental health and
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most importantly how are we going to
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redefine what balance and success looks
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like for ourselves spoiler
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it's not about ticking every box on that
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NeverEnding to-do list okay so stay
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tuned stay tuned with me so
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um the do it all mentality is
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toxic the do it all mentality is toxic
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first of all where did this myth even
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come from somewhere along the way
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Society decided that women should be
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superheroes effortlessly managing a
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career family friendships personal
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growth and of course a Flawless
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Instagram worthy appearance because
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nothing says I've got it together like a
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perfectly filtered Branch
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Pho but let me ask you something when
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was the last time you met anyone who was
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truly doing it all and not at some level
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Crump in Down Under the pressure I'll
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wait I'll
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wait no one exactly because this is a
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standard scam it's exhausting it's
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unrealistic and frankly it's dangerous
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and deadly we are constantly being fed
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that this
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idea of us not succeeding is our fault
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at some level like what we have we we
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are being told We are failing at life
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but here's the thing that's not how
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success works and it's high time we call
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BS on the notion like let's call it what
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it is let's call it what it is you know
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who benefits from this from this me from
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this mentality this
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mindset it's definitely not women it's
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definitely not women it's the industries
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selling us products to
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improve
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ourselves the diet culture telling women
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and convincing them that they need to be
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thinner and the self-help Guru is
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pushing us to be more productive more
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polished more perfect but you know what
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Perfection is boring and striving for it
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will only only leave you feeling
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inadequate because it's a goalpost that
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keeps on moving you can do it all but
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not all at once and certainly not
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without breaking down not without
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breaking down
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so now let's let's get into what real
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balance actually means because balance
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is not about doing everything at
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once it's it's about doing what matters
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to you this is where we flip the script
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this is where we flip the script instead
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of feeling like you have to juggle
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everything on your plate perfectly let's
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redefine balance as the freedom to focus
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on what really matters to you in that
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moment
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I mean that's fair that's so fair that's
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so fair imagine balance
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being fluid and not static some days you
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are you are going to rock your career
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like a boss other days you'll be lucky
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if you manage to put on pens and make it
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through the day without losing your mind
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guess what both of those days are
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perfectly valid you don't have to be
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hard on yourself you can still get
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things done you don't just have to be in
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a rush as if like if you don't do this
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the world is going to stop it's okay if
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your vision of balance looks like
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focusing on your career while the the
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the laundry PS up or spending time with
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your family while the emails God
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unanswered the key is understanding that
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you get to choose what's important to
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you not what Society tells you should be
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important you cannot keep letting people
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run your life and
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okay it's okay if your priorities change
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from day to day life is messy and so is
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balance you just need to work with
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yourself not against yourself and just
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never be hard on yourself so here's a
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radical thought um stop trying to please
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everyone instead ask yourself what do I
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want to focus on today what do I want to
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focus on today you don't have to be
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everything to everyone take a breath and
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give yourself permission to prioritize
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your well-being your happiness and what
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really matters in your life to you I
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mean that's that's the best thing you
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can do for yourself and your loved ones
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that's the best thing that you can do
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for yourself and your loved ones so
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let's talk about um boundaries because
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honey boundaries are everything
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boundaries are everything if you want to
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maintain your sanity and reclaim your
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life you need to get comfortable with
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the word
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no not in a maybe later way but in a
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strong confident
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no no thanks I'm good kind of a way you
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know it's about knowing when to say no
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to the things that don't serve you so
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you can say yes to what actually lights
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you up to what actually is going to get
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you excited is going to benefit you so
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much we've been controlled to think that
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saying no is rude or selfish but let me
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flip that script for you okay it's self
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care it's self care it's self love it's
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self
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respect it's self care so protecting
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your energy your time and your peace is
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essential if you don't do that for
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yourself no one is going to do that for
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you no one is going to do that for you
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so if you're running yourself wagged
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trying to meet everyone else's
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expectations you are going to burn out
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you're going to burn out and even find
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yourself unable to reach your your goals
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that you you you you you are hoping
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they'll get you some way and when you
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burn out guess what you are not serving
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anyone especially not yourself so
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boundaries can look like not taking on
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extra work when you already drunk in you
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know saying no to social events that
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you're not interested in or just telling
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people to take a seat when they try to
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criticize your choices it's about
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choosing you and doing it guilt free mhm
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and doing it guilt free baby because
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you're doing it for yourself if you
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don't do this for yourself who's going
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to do it for you who's going to do it
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for you Perfection is so overrated
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embrace the messy middle
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sometimes just embrace it let me just
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drop a a true a truth bomb okay
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Perfection is a lie that's right I said
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it the obsession with having it all
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together all the time it's it's not only
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unrealistic it's
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boring it's borring real life is messy
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it's y it's too much it's unpredictable
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and you know what that's why what makes
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it
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beautiful that's what makes it beautiful
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no one is
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perfect that's why everyone is so unique
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that's why everyone is so beautiful in
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their own way cuz they are not perfect
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embracing imperfection means accepting
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that someday you are going to
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be somehow because people change and
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accepting that some days are going to be
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hard you are going to make mistakes
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things are going to go wrong but always
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keep an optimistic mind but that doesn't
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mean you are failing that doesn't mean
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you are falling apart it means you are
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simply human and the sooner you let go
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of this need to be perfect the sooner we
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can start living a life that actually
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feels good and let's stop striving for
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Perfection okay let's stop doing that to
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ourselves and start celebrating progress
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because every small step you take
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towards your goals every moment every
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minute you prioritize your happiness
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over societal pressure that's a win oh
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my God that's a flx that's a win so if
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you don't check every box on your to-do
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list today who cares who cares celebrate
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what you did celebrate what is it that
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that you were able to do trust me you're
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doing great you are doing doing great so
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don't be hurting yourself self
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self-compassion oh my God oh my God is
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your biggest cheerleader it's your
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biggest cheerleader so ladies we need to
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talk about self-compassion more in this
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channel if there's one thing we need to
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do more it's it's being kind to
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ourselves
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so let's just be kind let's let's
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indulge more in this in this
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self-compassion journey let's do it
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together we are so quick to show love
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and support to everyone else but when it
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comes to ourselves
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crickets no why is that why it's time we
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we we choose ourself it's time we we
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become our biggest cheerleaders treat
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ourselves with the same kindness love
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and patience with what we offer to a
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friend you know stop being so hard on
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yourself you're navigating a world
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that's constantly trying to put you in a
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box tells you who to be and you are
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still here fighting for your own
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happiness oh that's
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powerful that's
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powerful that's
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powerful so next time you start feeling
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like you are falling out you are falling
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Short
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Stop breathe and remind yourself that
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you are doing the best that you can with
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what you have and that my love is
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enough that is enough I mean in this
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world in this world the way it is
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self-compassion is the best thing that
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you can ever do for yourself that you
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can ever do to yourself so now let's get
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one thing
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straight let's get one thing straight
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great no matter how much pain life is
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going to throw at
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you be compassionate with yourself the
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key to thriving isn't having a perfect
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um rigid
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plan it's in being flexible it's in
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being flexible life is going
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to to flow here and there and your P
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your priorities will shift along with it
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what matters is how you roll with it you
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know some weeks you might be full on
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work mode killing it you know and some
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weeks you might be H down but that
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doesn't mean you're failing that doesn't
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mean you're failing that doesn't mean
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you're failing and it and that's okay
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flexibility doesn't mean you are losing
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focus no you're not losing focus it
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means you are
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adapting it it means you are adapting
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and you are
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resilient it means you are growing it
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means so much it means so much so the
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more you are compassionate with yourself
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that's the more you're going to you're
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going to learn more about yourself and
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your adaptations and your growth I made
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a
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video there's a video I I will I will
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link it it talks about the strategies
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that woman can use to fall out of the
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Trap of being the nice girl and I spoke
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about journaling and how journaling is
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so helpful in tracking your your moods
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tracking your behavior so I'm mentioning
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in this because I I think I need to
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point it out on this video that try
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journaling and as you're journaling
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practice self-compassion compassionate
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with yourself have patience for yourself
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and keep tracking your behavior keep
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tracking what's happening in your life
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draft it down your feelings what you did
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what you've done do all of that that's
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also a way you show yourself that you
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compassionate with yourself so try
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journaling ladies try journaling so
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success isn't about doing everything
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it's about doing what what is meaningful
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to you forget what the society says you
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should be doing forget it you are your
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architect you know you are your own
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architect of your own life it's up to
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you to Define what success looks like
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and it doesn't have to be the picture
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perfect life you see on social media
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real success is about creating a life
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that is of authentic and fulfilling and
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true to who you
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are that's it uh that's that's that's
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that's all there is to
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life nurturing yourself having a deep
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meaningful connection with yourself and
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being compassionate with yourself I mean
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you you have to do that in this world a
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world full of Sinners a world full of
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people who are not perfect a world full
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of people who are going through their
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own things in life trust me you want to
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be compassionate you want to be kind to
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yourself you want to be patient with
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yourself cuz if you don't do that the
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world is going to finish you the world
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is going to finish you so here's my
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challenge to
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you start redefining your success for
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you let go of the pressure to do it all
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and focus on doing what makes you happy
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what makes you feel so alive and what
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aligns with your values because at the
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end of the day that is what real success
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looks like
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that's my challenge to you do it so do
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it
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without thinking too much you know
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sometimes people they end up not doing
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the things they they they' plan to do
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because they think too much they want to
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analyze too much no here's the plan
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executed here's the plan executed you
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don't need billions to to execute this
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plan to execute this challenge you just
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need to be compassionate with yourself
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and see how fast you grow and see how
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Zen you'll be so guys thank you so much
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and this is the end of this video thank
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you so much for watching my video and I
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would really really appreciate it if you
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share this with other women you know
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people need to people need to hear these
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things man people need to to hear more
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of positivity that's going to wake them
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up people need to people need some some
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someone who's going to lift their mood
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and remind them of who they are and
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remind them of the good things that they
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have to do for themselves so thank you
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so much once again and please if you
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liked this video just like it you know
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and subscribe if you're looking into
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such such videos if you are clean in
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joining this community and growing with
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us so I don't want to talk
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much toodles bye have have a good day I
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don't know who you are or where you come
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from but I'm wishing you a great day and
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bye-bye once again
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